Recovery from addiction is not easy. You have to give up your old “coping skill” which while it may have worked in the short-term, it was very, very negative in the long term. It was comfortable, you knew how to use it and you got good at it! To recover, we must work hard not only to stop using that skill, but to replace it with skills that are not negative in the long run! The replacement is very important. What will you change about your behaviors to stop being addicted to the wrong thing?Read more
In my time in the Navy, I was taught that problems needed to be named in such a way that the name pointed toward the solution. For example, when someone did not know how to do their job, it was called a “training” problem. If they did not have the tools or parts they needed to fix something, it was a “supply” problem. When we did not have enough people to do the job, it was a “personnel” problem. If someone misbehaved, it was a “discipline” problem. Yes, when morale was down, it was a “leadership” problem.
So, when we say that something is “addictive”, we are blaming the substance and not looking at the real solution to the problem.Read more
Most people have heard of the Serenity Prayer. It was written by Reinhold Niebuhr and is extensively used by 12-step programs. It is powerful for those that let it help and guide them. It paints life with a very broad brush, which is why so many people have used it and love it. Not only am I going to share it with you, but I will also share some additional niche versions that many have found even more helpful. You will also learn how you can share a version with someone you love by putting their name into it, and then give it to them by email or text. I am very excited to share this with you!Read more